Passionate Ways To Vary Your Sex Life
When you’re a new couple, the sex is always great. Both of your bodies are “new” to each other, which makes every time feel like the first time. However, after you’ve been together for a while, it’s very easy to fall into a routine. This can make the bedroom less appealing over time, and many long-term couples even stop having sex altogether! Fortunately, your sex life doesn’t have to die just because you’ve been together for a while.
The Path to a Fulfilling Bedroom
Below, we have a short list of five different ways to improve your stale sex life. Even if it hasn’t deteriorated just yet, these suggestions are sure to make a big improvement! With options ranging from toys to BDSM and online resources such as dedicated pegging sites ready to equip you with all the knowledge you’d ever need, it’s really not hard to improve your sex life. Sometimes you need a new partner to do this; it’s when online dating sites come into play. For other adventures, you’d want to use them to invite a third party into your couple’s bedroom. But most of the ways we describe can be done with your trusted long-term partner. Are you ready to take the plunge? Keep reading!
Incorporate Toys
Some people reading this might assume that using toys means you can’t please your partner sexually. While (in some cases) that might be true, most of the time, toys are just used to enhance the experience, not to substitute for your partner. There are many different types of sex toys that can be fun for couples to incorporate into their bedroom routines, such as vibrators (for both men & women!), suction toys, butt plugs, and anal beads. Which items work best will depend entirely on the couple, so it’s worth having a conversation with your partner before
making any purchases that might go unused.
Experiment with BDSM
While BDSM can certainly mean going to the extremes with flogging, paddling, or nipple clamps, there is a lighter side of BDSM that many couples enjoy (we’d suggest you start your journey here!). Experimenting with basic tools such as fuzzy handcuffs, blindfolds, or bondage tape can provide the extra “spark” your romance needs without too much effort. Add a bit of roleplay to the mix, and you’re both sure to have a night that neither of you will forget. Just don’t forget to choose a safe word!
Watch Porn Together
It’s often joked that young boys learn about sex from porn, and while that’s probably not where you want your partner to have learned ALL their tricks from, you can’t deny that it’s certainly possible to get some inspiration from this type of erotica. It may be a bit awkward at first, but by choosing videos to watch together, you’ll get to learn a bit more about what your partner’s into (and what they’re not). This can be especially helpful if your partner has a certain fetish or kink since many people aren’t too eager to share this information upfront or explain it in detail or
knowing which stars they prefer and act in a similar manner in the bedroom.
Try Swinging
For couples who have already tried everything listed above, adding new partner(s) to the mix might just provide the boost your sex life needs! Obviously, this type of sexual interaction requires that your partner be open to the experience, but it can be very rewarding if you can pull it off. While it’s definitely possible that you might find a unicorn living next door, you’re probably better off attending a swingers club or hitting up a house party as your introduction to “the lifestyle.”
Give Pegging a Try
If swinging doesn’t sound like it will work out, consider a role reversal: welcome to the world of pegging! In pegging, one partner wears a harness & a lubed dildo, which are used to anally penetrate their partner. For lesbian partners, this is especially popular if you want “the full experience,” but it may not be something that’s familiar with your heterosexual male partner. If that’s the case, you might need to bring it up yourself (or, on the other hand, he might already be thinking about it but be too afraid to ask!). The anus has over 8,000 nerve endings, so taking
it from behind can be very pleasurable; male receivers can also enjoy having their prostate stimulated for a unique type of orgasm!
It’s Time to Make the Change!
Whether your sex life is on the rocks or running wild, using the suggestions above can easily take it from “nay” to “yay”! Truthfully, sexual preferences vary widely, so what works for one couple might not work well for another. Whereas one couple might be fine just watching porn & roleplaying, another might be ready to use online dating sites to find a third partner (male OR female!), or take the leap to BDSM & pegging scenes. No matter what you decide (or learn) you like, it’s important to enjoy the experience with your partner. After all, sex is simply a physical expression of love, so close the door & get on with the romance!